According to Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurveda, the inner axis of a woman is what enables the balance of energy between the Heart and the Womb. I’ve seen that it is from this axis or center that women discover the true power of creative energy: to feel what you love and love what you feel.
Being a man it is sometimes difficult for me to understand what a woman actually experiences. That’s a mystery I want to keep for my personal life. But my training in observing and working with people’s energy, gives me some windows from where I can see certain dynamics which women have to deal with daily, sometimes without even realizing it themselves.
One I see quite often is the disconnection between feeling and love, which in energy terms can be seen as an interruption of the flow of energy in the Heart-Uterus Meridian*, known as Bao Mai, in Traditional Chinese Medicine.
I think it is necessary to clarify that when I observe this dynamic, it is not a mental conclusion that I can deduce from a woman’s behavior. On the contrary, I almost never have the time to even try that route, which would be more appropriate for a psychological therapy that would take a longer time, maybe even years. It is an observation that I make in the first 5 minutes of my Zen Shiatsu** sessions as part of the routine evaluation to determine which meridians I will be working with. It is 100% intuitive information, but obtained through a very organized and clear system, which is more than 4500 years old and that still amazes me every day for its speed and accuracy. It is complex to explain how this energy evaluation works. Let’s just say that some years of practice are required to master it, but in essence it’s simple. Anyway, the interesting part comes next: how to interpret the information so that it has meaning for that person and we can help him or her, take the steps needed for change.
According to how a womand makes this interruption of energy flow between heart and uterus (not all women do it in the same way) we can understand the unique and unrepeatable idiosyncrasies of the imbalance suffered. Howshe does it, is the detail that completes the picture and the key that allows us to understand how to build the necessary change for that particular person.
I must say that it is not a dynamic exclusive to women. The Bao Mai* meridian also exists in men (it has a relationship with what we might call the prostate) only that, in my clinical practice, women are definitely the most affected by imbalances in this area. I think there is a cultural factor that makes men not feel so affected by this disconnection (though it has important consequences also). Women instead, are affected deeply in their being as they live more intensely the emotions and their connection with the body.
Some types of infertility, inability to connect with the child in pregnancy or post partum, abortions, depression, frigidity, insecurity, low self-esteem, anxiety, repressed creativity, lack of identity, inability to enjoy (in any sense), indecision, unhealthy choices, are some of the possible manifestations of imbalance in this meridian.
Blood (in capital letters because in Chinese medicine it’s considered an organ itself and has multiple energy functions, as well as physical) is the common factor shared by both Heart and Uterus.
To give you a picture of this connection, we can see the uterus as similar to a heart: the uterus is a cavity surrounded by a thick muscle, where blood is received and released every 28 days. It’s something comparable to pumping blood from the heart at each beat, but much slower. The good energetic quality of the Blood regulates the proper functioning of both organs. The nutritive function of Blood also connects the digestive system to the dance developed between the Heart and the Uterus, and it is vitally important. When the uterus organ is physically missing because of an operation, it is interesting to note that it’s energetic functions are performed by other organs and can restore the flow of energy in the Bao Mai meridian, but sometimes that flow is interrupted, most often by emotional or mental reasons.
To explain it better, let’s look at another perspective. In Ayurveda, the traditional medicine of India, there are energy centers called chakras. In my personal work system, the Heart meridian corresponds to the Fourth Chakra (chest) and the Uterus to the Second Chakra (in the pelvis) and the Third Chakra (in the abdomen). The right of the Fourth Chakra, is the right to love and be loved. The Second Chakra, represents the right to feel and be felt. The balanced relationship between them is the right to “love what I feel,” and the right to “feel what I love.”
How do you discover if your meridian Uterus-Heart is balanced?
Step 1-Visualize a channel of light between the heart and the uterus. Notice in your picture how is that channel (thin, wide, straight, wavy, dense, light, etc.), what color, what texture, thickness and any other quality that comes to mind.
Step 2-Imagine doing the journey from the heart to the womb and as well as paying attention to the image of how the route is, note the feeling or sensations that come up for you.
Step 3-Now visualize the journey from the uterus to the heart and also note the feeling or sensations that come up for you. Is it different than before? You may feel some differences between both journeys. If they are more or less equal and sensations are pleasant, your Heart-Uterus meridian is balanced.
If not, let’s look at some options:
CAUTION: If at this point you’re wondering if you felt or did not feel anything during the exercise, stop for a moment.
If you got to read everything carefully up to here, YOU ALREADY DID THE EXERCISE!
Perhaps you thought you wouldn’t have the time to do it now, or you were going to leave it for later, when you could close your eyes, be quiet and have a moment for yourself, but the chances are that if you leave it for later, you’ll not make it.
This is an active meditation, something you can do while you are reading or doing anything else. Just by reading it carefully, your mind and your body have already processed it and gave you the intuitive information you were asking them. No need to go back to it again and again. Look into your memory of a moment ago, while you were reading, what image came to your mind, body sensations or whatever you had. If you did not feel anything, then that is exactly the information that your body is giving you. It’s fine to feel nothing.
Please consider that this is an exploration of subtle factors of your energy system that can reflect important things about how you are standing in the world and how you relate to life. In no way implies a judgment of something that is unchangeable, or that you need to “fix”. It helps you become aware of a state of things; this is the first step for any work you want to undertake with yourself, but it does not necessarily mean there is a problem, much less a problem at the physical level of the organs.
If it is more difficult to visualize in the direction of the heart to the womb:
Many times we do not love what we feel; I can love another, but my senses are not activated in the encounter with the loved one, or maybe my feelings reveal or generate a conflict. My heart goes in one direction and my body in another. To judge if what I feel is right or wrong, whether it is beautiful or ugly, immoral, low, unworthy, etc., does not allow me to recognize my feelings as mine. It might mean that I don’t recognize or allow my anger, my sadness, my pleasure, my hope, my joy, or my impulsiveness and I cannot integrate them. Compassion for oneself is a good way to neutralize that judgment and to change this dynamic.
If it is more difficult to visualize the direction from uterus towards the heart:
Sometimes we do not feel what we love; love is more expansive and subtle than sensations, and it is not always so clear what the Heart tells us. It is the case of the person who feels and enjoys at the level of bodily sensations but fails to rise to the vibration of love, or allow herself to be loved, or love another. What the gut tells us (Second Chakra), sometimes helps to anchor what the heart tries to tell us and also helps us to integrate love in our feelings and our actions. Feel the love, act from the Heart or materialize the fruit of love in our actions and in our body.
In this dynamic, the Third Chakra located mid-way between the Heart and the Uterus, also plays a role because it is the great materializer. In this regard, having a child is the ultimate expression of the materialization (where there was nothing, a new physical body is materialized), but many things can be born if the connection to creative action is allive and strong. The demands of working life (where the masculine qualities of women are rewarded), some aspects of our education, the confusion between women and men’s roles, resistance to maturing, harmful messages from the images we see of women in advertising (sexual and body related), traumatic experiences, failures and disappointments of past love experiences are some of the reasons for the disconnection between loving and feeling. In fact, the list is endless, because each person has their own specific reasons.
Healing the relationship between the Heart and the Uterus create a communication channel that not only binds the parts together but it transforms itself into a sort of compass, antenna, gyroscope and barometer that a woman can rely upon. It guides, maintains balance and gives direct, immediate and accurate information of all processes of the body-mind. It is a centralizer of a woman’s power in her inner shaft. A shaft which also connects her to Earth and to Heaven and from where her loving power can be extended to every action, thing, or state of self she aims to materialize.-
* – Meridian- is a channel that conducts energy flows (also called Chi, Qi, Prana, etc., according to different traditions). There are 12 Main Meridians which are called, for example; Stomach, Spleen, Kidney, etc., because somehow they are related to the organs but are capitalized to differentiate them from anatomical organs. In Asian traditions, organs have emotional, mental and spiritual functions, in addition to the physical functions we know in the West.
The Heart-Uterus Meridian is one of the 8 Extraordinary Meridians, apart from the main 12 and in Traditional Chinese Medicine, is known as Bao Mai.
** Zen Shiatsu is a Japanese bodywork therapy that uses finger pressure on the body surface to stimulate functions at the physical, emotional, mental and spiri
tual level. It is based on Traditional Chinese Medicine and its theory and practice was extended by Shizuto Masunaga in Japan in the 1970s and was known in the West in the 1980’s.